With that said, I’d be happy with an exclusive relationship with a man where we make each other a priority. A relationship where we don’t take each other for granted and can just enjoy the stability of a caring, affectionate partnership. I am that lucky woman in more ways than one….but I can’t find a decent guy who wants a meaningful relationship….nevermind one who isn’t so broken that he isn’t stable and can’t put in the work. Overall I am very accepting and I can forgive a lot of shortcomings, but still…it is not like dating in my 20’s anymore. I’m 38, and having older women hit on me on online dating sites is a big turn off.

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At 53, two handsome sons, both graduating college soon enough which I raised alone for the past 5 years as their mother slowly saying goodbye in a nursing home with early onset dementia. It started when she was early 40’s – thought it was depression or behavior based. I don’t know what to do so I bought a motorcycle and started hiking constantly.

I am also not bothered by scars, imperfections, mastectomies, and many other things that women might be afraid to let people see. I have my own scars and medical issues and the relentless pressure to be physically perfect is hurting many of us. But yes, there are certain things I am having a hard time getting past.

Younger women, let’s say in their 20s and up to mid 30s have zero interest in men that old. Women in their 40s are either going for men their age or taking advantage of their cougarness. Life gets really sad when you’re a male in your 50s. The dilemma I am facing is I have met a nice gentleman who is 10 years my senior.

This is the free weekly version of this newsletter. If you’re enjoying it, or if you want to support feminist journalism, consider upgrading to a paid subscription. Many age-gap couples do not display ulterior financial or professional motives. We might’ve come a long way, but there’s still a particular stigma around the older woman/younger man relationship.

It seems like these women feel that at least this is better than being alone. I spend a good chunk of my life being respondible. However, I really want a relationship in which my partner is foremost my ‘girlfriend’ and she acts that way. But she wants to hold hands, smooch in the movie theatre and never turns some opportunity because ‘its late and I have to get up in the morning’.

You can only take being beaten down for so long. I have found this thread very interesting. I have just passed https://reviewsforsingles.com/localmilfselfies-review/ my one year anniversary of being divorced. Not sure what the future holds or even what I want from it.

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I was not looking to get divorced, but now that I am, I know it was best. She tried the murder option first, but when that failed went for the divorce. I get lonely, but am not in any hurry. Tom, I have read both of your posts and I am sorry for what you have been through. I am also sorry that being female I represent a population of selfish, self centered people.

“You may feel limited, afraid, and self-conscious because you are aging, but don’t let that stop you from living your life,” says health and wellness coach Lynell Ross. We’ve been together for 10 years, married for 7. He gets erections when he light my cigarettes for me. He takes care of me while I take care of him.

I became a widower in 2008 after nearly 20 years of marriage to my same age partner. She died just after our 50th birthday. We had sons ages 14 and 16 in the home. I had not dated much prior to my marriage primarily due to my career demands in a family business. Im 54 and I am on a couple of dating sites.

I slot in as 55, single, never married, no kids, 5 ft 7in, and 140 lbs, and, to top it all off, I work as a librarian. I’ve never had a lot of money, but I’m steady. Had a few physical challenges, but am in better shape than most of my contemporaries, as I do still work out 3-4 times per week, and am into primitive archery and love getting out to the woods.

I am financially independent and I have been taken advantage of by a man my age so I don’t want that to happen again. I know the handsome, fit, and financially sound men are looking for younger women so I have to compete with them for these types of men. The only way to do this is to be also be fit, well put together, get a little botox even, be confident, educated, happy, and fun! I have to take care of myself if I want a man who takes care of himself. I have no idea but I’m going to give it my all. If you’ve read any of my posts you will know that at age 50 I don’t share the views and actions of these women you’ve described.

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In a chauvinist culture, an older woman may still be seen as the weaker one in the relationship, not the one taking advantage of a younger partner, which may happen to older men dating younger women. A large study of more than 12,000 participants in Finland found that most women prefer same-age or older male partners throughout life, while men, regardless of age, tend to prefer women in their 20s. Reported satisfaction in a relationship may start to see diminishing returns if the age gap between partners is larger than 10 years, suggests an 80-paper review from 2016.